She didn’t get to…

“It’s not all men,” they say.

We believe it’s all men,
until it’s no men.

We’ve heard enough about what abusers will not get to do with their lives if convicted. We never hear about what she lost. The opportunities shadowed by their abuse. The doors closed for simply setting a boundary. How hard it is to keep acting like life is normal after a traumatic experience.

“She didn’t get to…” is a safe space to tell the story of a life that was affected, forever changed, and left carrying the cost of someone else’s abuse. It can be yours. It can be the life of someone you know.

Write from a symbolic “she”. Either yours or someone else’s story. We want to reframe the narrative and focus on what women have lost.

For legal reasons, any names, organizations, or identifying information will not be published. We do encourage you to report any and every instance of abuse.

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SHE DIDN’T GET TO…

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5 women’s stories shared.

  1. She never got to be COO, after years of working towards a leadership role, she had to step down, because she wasn't giving him enough attention - constantly criticized, alone and isolated- desperately needed help but didnt know how to ask. One day I just broke - and I can't seem to put myself back together.

  2. She didn't get to have a father, only an abuser.

  3. She didn't get to have a normal, trusting, loving relationship for the rest of her life after being abused by her uncle when she was a child.

  4. She didn't get to trust the world again. My mom was abused by her father, and she has never been able to recover her selfworth. She has always struggled with feeling like she belongs anywhere. She has never trusted men again.

  5. she didn't ge to finish college. She was drugged and abused at a frat party while she was with her boyfriend at the time who she trusted. The people involved had no consequences and she was expelled.